Monday, January 12, 2009
Ladies, Seriously
I had a few comments from the last post that made me wonder. Thanks by the way for all the nice stuff you all said. One day I might actually be that girl ;) Back to the point. Mike is a great guy don't get me wrong but the birthday post was not his idea. I told him for my birthday I wanted him to write a post about me. Selfish, arrogant maybe but lets face it I got what I wanted. I have learned over the years that if I would like something done for me then I have to actually tell my husband (gasp...) what I would like or expect. A few years ago I asked Mike to make breakfast for me for my birthday. He did it and now SOMETIMES remembers that I love to have breakfast in bed on my birthday. Which I did get this year. Strawberry waffles, YUM! I like to feel special on my birthday and rather then sulking about why he doesn't think of ways to do it I have given him suggestions on how to do so. At this point in the post I would love to know what you are thinking about me..... or maybe I am glad that I can't :) Anyways, if you want something done that is reasonable then I bet 9 out of 10 times your spouse would be more then willing to help you but you have to ASK. I did ask Mike to stay home from work and he just looked at me and laughed, okay not reasonable for us but writing a post was. Trust me it was still fun reading the post afterwards even though I knew it wasn't his idea. So ladies and the few gentleman that read this let your spouse know what you would like and see what happens. Whether it be something for your birthday or something they could do special for you on a daily basis. Just ASK, and be ready for a few subtle reminders you might have to give :) Then praise, praise when they get it right and no doubt it will happen again!
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I've just spent sometime catching up on your blogs. First I have to say Happy Birhtday on the 6th. January is full of Birthdays in our family. 2nd, what a great family picture. Your girls are getting so big and cute. I'll bet they are alot of fun. 3rd, I agree with you, you have to ask for what you want sometimes because I learned that nobody can read my mind, as much as I would like it, so, yes, toot your own horn and tell people what you like. We sould love to see you sometime, I think we should work on a W.H. Robbins family reunion this year. Let's get a date settled soon.
Love ya
first of all, sorry about this morning. Ben's feedings did not work with the 5:30 time slot. hopefully he will be back on track for wednesday. On Christmas we were with some family members that got in a fight all because she just expected her husband to know what she was thinking and help her. Sometimes woman think men should know what we want. 100% of the time with Brendan he is more than willing to do what I need as long as I ask. Learning this has saved us from a ton of frustration with one another. They want to do everything and anything for us, but they don't think the same way we do. We shouldn't get to offended to ask but get excited that they will help when we do. Was that long enough for you?
amen sister!!I hear you on that one.
You crack me up! Aaron has told me from day one "just figure I'm an idiot who doesn't know anything-if you want something done, TELL ME!" Works out pretty well, huh? ha!
And hey, double points for you for knowing and telling him, and not pulling the "I don't know" card! : )
My mom told me before I got married that if I wanted something from Justin, I have to ask and not hint and hope that he gets the hint and then spend time being mad because he didn't do it. It doesn't matter if it's flowers, chocolates or to take the garbage out. I'm not always the best at it, but it does always make me happy.
Hmmm, I'm not sure what to think. I'm a little difficult, I hate feeling directed. If I feel no opportunity for creativity I lose interest pretty quick. For example, "I love breakfast in bed", that's fine "I want strawberry waffles, a glass of freshly squeezed orange juice white toast with the crust trimmed" and I might start letting my mind wander... There's a comfort dish that I make that Kristen let's me know when she wants, and that's pretty cool... I'm just nervous about "telling him what you want" being over aggressively mis-interpreted into "TELL him what YOU want".
I love that you admitted you asked him to do it--not to give him TOO much credit! I am with you on telling them what you want, then you can really be mad at them when they don't do it. And I love breakfast in bed too!
i need to ask more. even when it seems so DUH, obvious what is needed or wanted. Like when you finish dinner first (Dax) and leave the table with wife and kids sitting their with the mess. That was a couple days ago and I said, "What are you doing, honey?"
"I'm going to put this rifle together." "Does it have to be done now, or can you help clean up dinner first (not a question)."
we learn.
Definitely a good lesson to learn. Thanks for sharing--you always make me smile. :)
arent husbands kinda like puppies!
Ok, let's see if this works. Calvin, I want diamond stud earrings for my birthday or my anniversary this year. I have waited for 12 years of hoping you would just get it, but now I am asking. :) I'll let ya all know how it turns out.
I'm excited for the update Kristen. I'm still waiting for the machine that will help Landon read my mind. I wont' be holding my breath.
I think it's an incredibly sweet post, his idea or not.
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